Agonising

I have been learning new things. About people, and how i should not, cannot, conveniently bracket people into a certain 'type'; how dangerous the inclination to do so is. Everyone has sides which i've yet not discovered, maybe would never discover. I have learnt to suspend moral judgement, or any judgement in general, except when it comes to the self. I have no right to comment, to assume, to judge, to assert... I am learning to respect, to perceive, to admire, to try and understand. It is disrespectful to say you know a person: this i realised a long while back. But when i said that to people, they wished i had said otherwise. Is it because they don't understand enough or is it me who's short-sighted ? This in some way distances me from people, which is wrong. But how do i find an alternative ? Either i can continue making judgements on my own and feel close to some people because of it or i can view them as people with unknown potential and hence succeed in staying far, far away from getting closer to them anyhow. Or is there a third way ? Where i can act spontaneously, decide on the basis of what i see (or not see) and still remain right, and correct, and just ?? Not all the time; hoping that would be foolishly utopic... But most times. I'm searching for such a way for a long time now. Is there ???